Changing paths….

While I am still taking doula clients (primarily repeat families) I am finally moving forward toward my end goal of becoming a Midwife.   Because of the time commitment involved my availability for doula work has been greatly reduced.  If you have landed here to find a doula please still contact me and I can help you find someone who will be more available to you and a good fit.

I have started my apprenticeship with Tarrin Fletcher, CPM, LDM at Happy Belly Midwifery.  I am really enjoying learning from her and becoming part of her practice. If you are looking for a home birth midwife please head on over to our website and give Tarrin a call to set up a consultation!

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Mama to doula: “how far along am I?”
Doula to mama: “closer than the last contraction”
Mama: “but, how far OPEN am I?”
Doula: “VERY open, your pelvis is roomy…”
Mama: “Aw, c’mon, you know what I mean, can you check me?!”
Doula (looking mama up and down): “I just checked you and you look like a birthing goddess, powerful and amazing, who is very irritated with her doula telling her she is doing great and doesn’t need any fingers in her yoni” (smile).
Mama (smiling now): “point taken.. here comes another one.”
… Mama started bearing down 10 minutes later….

Shared by a doula friend on facebook.

 

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Ever wonder what you should ask during your doula interviews?

A fellow doula wrote this wonderful post that outlines some of the questions that are good to ask when interviewing doulas for your upcoming birth.

(posted with permission.)

Interview Questions for Birth Doulas
by Kate Donahue

Finding a the right doula is easy because doulas typically offer a ‘get to know you’ visit, often in your home. After screening initially by scanning her webpage, you’ll want to get in touch and set up an appointment. Believe me, we are just as excited to talk to you as you are to talk to us! Here are a list of questions you may want to ask each doula you interview:

  • What is your own birth experience like?
  • What led you to be a doula?
  • What is the best part of being a doula?
  • What is the worst part of the job?
  • How do you keep a balance between your work and home life?
  • Can you/do you actually support your family doing this kind of work?
  • What kind of formal training have you had?
  • What books have you read?
  • What are some workshops you’ve attended?
  • What do you see is your role as a doula?
  • What do you see as your strengths as a doula?
  • How do you help to manage pain during labor?
  • Do you accept clients who plan to use an epidural?
  • Do you accept clients who plan a Cesarean birth?
  • When would you call in your backup doula?
  • Under what circumstances would you leave labor?
  • How many clients do you take a month?
  • Is anyone else due on your calendar close to my due date?
  • Do you have any limitations on where you will go or which caregivers you will work with?
  • How do you avoid conflict and maintain a positive working relationship with hospital/birth center staff?
  • How do you feel about ___fill in the blank with something you feel strongly about___?
  • What do you wish you had known going into your first birth?

Ask her the tough questions. Doulas are supposed to be honest – you need to know that you can count on her to tell you the truth 100% of the time. I really recommend you don’t hold back. What do you really want to know from her?

Also, be prepared for the doula to ask you and your partner questions. She is going to want to know what your experience is like with birth, your views, beliefs, and fears. She will likely ask about your plans for birth, your feelings about medical interventions, and your expectations of her as your doula. Part of the initial consultation/interview process is for her to screen you as a client and make sure that you and your partner are right for her doula practice. I would like to think I’m the right doula for most women, but I know I am not the right doula for every woman.

Probably the most important question that you could ask is do you really like her? I cannot stress enough how important it is for you to feel really comfortable with your doula. The relationship you will form is a really special relationship – not only does she need to have knowledge and skills, there needs to be some chemistry between you.

 

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The beauty of the mind in affecting labor.

All that we are is the result of what we have thought. The mind is everything. What we think we become. ~~The Buddha

In birth there is nothing more powerful than the laboring woman’s mind. This is the tool she needs most and the one we (doulas and care providers alike) often overlook in supporting her.  We often look to our physical comfort measures first, when I believe the work of supporting a woman’s birth begins with her mind.

There have been countless studies done about the power of mind over body, or mind-body medicine, but there has been little done to show how these techniques or skills can be used to help women achieve true a true natural birth with little or no medical interventions.  But what is clear is that how women perceive birth in general can have a dramatic effect on the outcome of their own labors.  I believe that one of my roles as a doula is to find out what that perception is and help my client understand how it can affect her birth.  Then from there we can work towards clearing any negative beliefs about birthing, her body, becoming a mother etc and replace them with positive thoughts, images, and beliefs.

There have been some articles* written lately about how our cultural view of childbirth can color a woman’s perceptions and set her up for fear, misunderstanding, misinformation, and disappointment during her labor and birth.  Working with a client who is a first time mom and has never witnessed birth in person this is the primary influence I have to help her understand and sometimes overcome.   When all you see is screaming women in painful crisis it is really hard to believe that birth can be a peaceful, beautiful, serene event.  It is even harder to believe that oneself can birth peacefully in a place of strength and power rather than the helpless almost near death experience portrayed by our media today.

Another strong influence on the way a woman perceives labor and birth are the stories she hears from women in her family and circle of friends.  Some of these stories can be wonderfully positive and give the mother to be hope for a positive experience, but more often than not they are horror stories full of tales about the unbearable pain, long labors, the use of forceps, painful tears or episiotomies, and cesarean sections!  For a woman wanting a low key, low intervention, natural birth these are enough to shake her confidence in her body, her baby, and her birth.   That shaken confidence can lead to a cascade of doubt and interventions by well meaning medical staff which then derail her chances of the birth she originally desired.

She may even hear stories from the older women in her family about twilight sleep, being separated from baby for hours, or breasts being bound to stop lactation.  While those stories may seem preposterous to us today, they can still cause a lot of trouble for labor, birth, and immediately postpartum.  When compared to those horror stories the thought of an IV and the electronic fetal monitor seem mild.  But it is just that appearance of less harm that can cause a woman to agree to unnecessary interventions because of the well meaning good they propose to do.  The challenge then for me is helping my clients navigate through all of those images of birth and realize how even today trust in her own body is paramount to any “machine that goes ping“.

I help my clients clear this prior programing by our culture and the stories they’ve heard by using various techniques designed to get at the heart of what they believe about birth and then release those fears and perceptions.  I call this Fear Release. Some of the techniques I use are:

  1. Visualization and/or Self Hypnosis
  2. Drawing and Art
  3. Journaling

Techniques for Fear Release

Visualization is the process by which we use our mind’s eye to imagine a scene.  It’s sort of the same as how when your reading a novel you can picture what the characters and action looks like in your head.  There are two steps to visualization for fear release.

Step One is to bring up the image or images of birth that cause fear, anxiety, or distrust and then “releasing” them.  Some common ways of doing that are by seeing the seen as a photograph then imagining tearing it into little pieces and throwing them to the wind, seeing the words that represent the fear (i.e. episiotomy, IV, loss of control, etc etc) written on a piece of paper and then visualizing that paper being burnt to ash, or I’ve even used the image of those scenes being a movie on actual film that is then torn and melted to nothing.  There are as many ways to destroy negative images in one’s own mind as their are individuals! It is up to the client to figure out which way works best for them.

Step Two is replacing those negative images with positve, uplifting, empowering ones. I often counsel my clients to see themselves laboring as they desire.  Where are they? What position are they in?  Who is in the room?  What’s the quality of light like?  Is there music? See the scene in as much detail as they can manage and then move from the scene of labor to the moment of birth how does that look to them?  Next, see themselves holding their baby in their arms, possibly breastfeeding for the first time, and then bask in that glow of accomplishment, empowerment, and full trust that their body CAN do this.

Drawing and Art can often be used in a very similar yet more tangible way as visualization.  Some women who have a hard time with visualization exercises may benefit from actually drawing out the images they have of birth that could be a negative influence on their labor and birth.  Following much of the same 2 step path as one would doing it in their mind, women can draw, sculpt, or paint the scenes and then physically destroy them.  This can be a very powerful moment for them. Giving them actual dominion over that which gives them fear.  Continuing on to the second step of creating their ideal birth in ink, clay, or paint. From there I have them display that piece of art in their home somewhere that it can be seen daily, and spend time actually looking at it and feeling ownership of it.

Journaling in any situation can be a very helpful and powerful tool.  In preparing for the birth of a child it has the potential to help expectant mothers to undo years of negative ideas and replace them with a much more positive reality.  Writing down all of the stories, media images (scenes from movies and TV, news stories etc), and personal fears helps women to define exactly where their ideas about labor, birth, and even parenting come from.  Then weed through them, literally tear out the negative ones and replace them with how they wish to experience pregnancy, labor, birth, and being a mother.  Actually writing down in her own words the story of her birth before it happens is a powerful tool for a pregnant mother. When ever fear strikes she can use this tool to literally erase it and re-script what she sees as her ideal experience.

It is important to remember that these are only tools for the mind and spirit. They do not replace good childbirth education, proper nutrition, regular prenatal care, or professional counseling for more extreme situations like abuse survivors or mental illnesses.

As a doula I encourage my clients to really spend time examining those ideas, stories, and concepts that may produce fear in her before, during, and even after childbirth.  The fear of not making enough breastmilk for example can lead to behaviors that create a self-fulfilling prophesy for that mother, for example.  By examining these before hand and using tools to change fear into empowerment many mothers can go forward with a much more positive birth experience and in turn become more confident mothers.

Resources:
Birthing From Within
HypnoBabies® Hypnosis for Childbirth
HypnoBirthing® The Mongan Method
Leclaire Hypnobirthing Method: Natural Childbirth with Hypnosis
The FreshStart™ Method

References:

*Portrayals of Childbirth in the Media by Tiffany L. Holdsworth-Taylor CD(DONA)

Note: I believe every woman who desires it should have access to continuous, calm, loving support before, during, and immediately after childbirth.
My specialty is the use of hypnosis for childbirth. I have experience with both Hypno-Birthing and HypnoBabies as well as more traditional childbirth preparation methods such as Bradley, Lamaze, and Birthing From Within.

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A beautiful documentary on what a Doula is and why they are needed.

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Know Your Rights!

Here is a great article written by Dr. Marsden Wagner on The Trusting Our Bodies Website:

Every Mother’s Right to Birth How She Chooses:

It’s best for you to know your rights.  You can birth at any hospital you
choose when you are in labor, they must take you in and treat you if you
request treatment.  A full explanation of your rights are below.

What are my rights?

-  You have the right to decline induction or cesarean section.  

-  You have the right to make medical decisions free from coercion and
undue influence from your birth attendants.

-  You have the right to revoke consent previously given at any time
either verbally or in writing.

-  You have the right to be fully informed before making a decision,
including a diagnosis, recommended treatment and alternative treatment -
the risks, benefits, discomforts and potential disabilities of those
treatments, realistic expectation of outcomes, a second opinion and any
financial or research interests a birth attendant might have in proposing
certain treatments.

Can my birth attendant discontinue care?

No!  Not when you are in labor or are within 30 days of giving birth.

- A doctor/midwife must give you 30 days notice in writing with a list of
referrals to other birth attendants in order to discontinue care.

- During labor or within the 30 days, the doctor/midwife cannot terminate
ongoing care unless the patient has successfully transferred to another
doctor.

Doctors/midwives who fail to follow these guidelines can be charged with
patient abandonment which is grounds for malpractice and loss of license.

(See ACOGs and AMAs ethical guidelines and the federal law (the
Emergency Medical Treatment and Active Labor Act – EMTALA).

Can a doctor go to a judge to obtain a court order to force me to
undergo a cesarean?

Doctors can do this but thanks to a widely cited case Carder v. George
Washington University Hospita
l, they are less likely to do so because this
goes against the ACOG’s guidelines and opens the doctor up to having
their license revoked or other disciplinary action AND if you sue them for
forcing you to undergo treatment by coercing you to consent, then they
will lose this legal battle and they know it!

The ACOG’s ethical guidelines say that doctors must respect the
autonomy of pregnant patients and that using the courts to compel
treatment is rarely, if ever, justified.

Does the pregnant mother have the last say in all medical decisions?

Yes!  The ACOG’s ethical guidelines also say that patient’s autonomy
must be respected at all times and that a doctor must obtain informed
consent for any medical or surgical treatment and that the patient’s
decision to forgo treatment whether it is based on cultural reasons,
religious reasons, personal preference or comfort must be honored.

Do I have to sign the hospital consent form?

No!  You are not required by law to sign the hospital consent form.  In
fact you do have the right to change the consent form to reflect your
wishes regarding specific treatments.  For example, you could write on the
consent form that you refuse a cesarean.  

What if I change the consent form to state I don’t want a
particular procedure or medical treatment and the doctor/midwife
does it anyway?

If you have in writing your wish to refuse a specific treatment such as a
cesarean and the doctor performs the cesarean anyway, the doctor and
hospital are subject to criminal battery charges even if you and the baby
are fine after the procedure.

Does any hospital have to treat me if I come to them in labor
asking for treatment?

Yes!  If you are within 250 feet of the hospital building and are in labor,
the hospital must treat you until you are in “stable” condition which for a
laboring woman means that the baby has been delivered and the placenta
has been delivered and then they can transfer you to another hospital or
follow  normal procedures until you are released from care.

Hospitals MUST admit women in active labor, explain the risks, benefits
and alternatives of all recommended treatments and honor the patient’s
wishes including the laboring mother’s right to refuse treatment even if
you can’t pay for that treatment.

If a hospital is not willing to comply with the laboring mother’s
wishes, what do I do now?

You can file a complaint with the chief compliance officer of the hospital.  
Hospitals must adhere to a set of rules called the Center for Medicare and
Medicaid Services conditions of participation – CMS’s CoP – which require
hospitals to honor patient rights as are stated above.  Hospitals that fail
to adhere to CoP are subject to heavy fines and risk losing their right to
qualify for Medicare and Medicaid funding.

Additionally, you can file a grievance with the hospital and you should have
received information on how to do that upon admission at the hospital.

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After Birth, What a family needs….


From Gloria Lemay:

“Let me know if I can help you in any way when the baby is born.” … “Just let me know if you need a hand.” … “Anything I can do, just give me a call.”

Most pregnant women get these statements from friends and family but shy away from making requests when they are up to their ears in dirty laundry, unmade beds, dust bunnies and countertops crowded with dirty dishes. The myth of “I’m fine, I’m doing great, new motherhood is wonderful, I can cope and my husband is the Rock of Gibraltar” is pervasive in postpartum land. If you’re too shy to ask for help and make straight requests of people, I suggest sending the following list out to your friends and family. These are the things I have found to be missing in every house with a new baby. It’s actually easy and fun for outsiders to remedy these problems for the new parents but there seems to be a lot of confusion about what’s wanted and needed…

1. Buy us toilet paper, milk and beautiful whole grain bread.

2. Buy us a new garbage can with a swing top lid and 6 pairs of black cotton underpants (women’s size____).

3. Make us a big supper salad with feta cheese, black Kalamata olives, toasted almonds, organic green crispy things and a nice homemade dressing on the side. Drop it off and leave right away. Or, buy us frozen lasagna, garlic bread, a bag of salad, a big jug of juice, and maybe some cookies to have for dessert. Drop it off and leave right away.

4. Come over about 2 in the afternoon, hold the baby while I have a hot shower, put me to bed with the baby and then fold all the piles of laundry that have been dumped on the couch, beds or in the room corners. If there’s no laundry to fold yet, do some.

5. Come over at 10 a.m., make me eggs, toast and a 1/2 grapefruit. Clean my fridge and throw out everything you are in doubt about. Don’t ask me about anything; just use your best judgment.

6. Put a sign on my door saying “Dear Friends and Family, Mom and baby need extra rest right now. Please come back in 7 days but phone first. All donations of casserole dinners would be most welcome. Thank you for caring about this family.”

7. Come over in your work clothes and vacuum and dust my house and then leave quietly. It’s tiring for me to chat and have tea with visitors but it will renew my soul to get some rest knowing I will wake up to clean, organized space.

8. Take my older kids for a really fun-filled afternoon to a park, zoo or Science World and feed them healthy food.

9. Come over and give my husband a two hour break so he can go to a coffee shop, pub, hockey rink or some other r & r that will delight him. Fold more laundry.

10. Make me a giant pot of vegetable soup and clean the kitchen completely afterwards. Take a big garbage bag and empty every trash basket in the house and re-line with fresh bags.

These are the kindnesses that new families remember and appreciate forever. It’s easy to spend money on gifts but the things that really make a difference are the services for the body and soul described above. Most of your friends and family members don’t know what they can do that won’t be an intrusion. They also can’t devote 40 hours to supporting you but they would be thrilled to devote 4 hours. If you let 10 people help you out for 4 hours, you will have the 40 hours of rested, adult support you really need with a newborn in the house. There’s magic in the little prayer “I need help.”

For more awesome articles and information on birth, breastfeeding, and babies please visit Gloria’s website at http://www.glorialemay.com/

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Normal Newborn Behavior and Why Breastmilk Isn’t Just Food-By Dr. Jenny Thomas

What is a normal, term human infant supposed to do?

First of all, a human baby is supposed to be born vaginally. Yes, I know that doesn’t always happen, but we’re just going to talk ideal, normal for now. We are supposed to be born vaginally because we need good bacteria. Human babies are sterile, without bacteria, at birth. It’s no accident that we are born near the anus, an area that has lots of bacteria, most of which are good and necessary for normal gut health and development of the immune system. And the bacteria that are there are mom’s bacteria, bacteria that she can provide antibodies against if the bacteria there aren’t nice.

Then the baby is born and is supposed to go to mom. Right to her chest. The chest, right in between the breasts is the natural habitat of the newborn baby. (Fun fact: our cardiac output, how much blood we circulate in a given minute, is distributed to places that are important. Lots goes to the kidney every minute, like 10% or so, and 20% goes to your brain. In a new mom, 23% goes to her chest- more than her brain. The body thinks that place is important!)

That chest area gives heat. The baby has been using mom’s body for temperature regulation for ages. Why would they stop? With all that blood flow, it’s going to be warm. The baby can use mom to get warm. When I was in my residency, we would put a cold baby “under the warmer” which meant a heater thingy next to mom. Now, as I have matured, if a baby is “under the warmer,” the kid is under mom. I wouldn’t like that. I like the kids on top of mom, snuggled.

Now we have a brand new baby on the warmer. That child is not hungry. Bringing a hungry baby into the world is a bad plan. And really, if they were hungry, can you please explain to me why my kids sucked the life force out of me in those last few weeks of pregnancy? They better have been getting food, or well, that would have been annoying and painful for nothing.

Every species has instinctual behaviors that allow the little ones to grow up to be big ones and keep the species going. Our kids are born into the world needing protection. Protection from disease and from predators. Yes, predators. Our kids don’t know they’ve been born into a loving family in the 21st century- for all they know it’s the 2nd century and they are in a cave surrounded by tigers. Our instinctive behaviors as baby humans need to help us stay protected. Babies get both disease protection and tiger protection from being on mom’s chest. Presumably, we gave the baby some good bacteria when they arrived through the birth canal. That’s the first step in disease protection. The next step is getting colostrum.

A newborn baby on mom’s chest will pick their head up, lick their hands, maybe nuzzle mom, lick their hands and start to slide towards the breast. The kids have a preference for contrasts between light and dark, and for circles over other shapes. Think about that…there’s a dark circle not too far away.

Mom’s sweat smells like amniotic fluid, and that smell is on the child’s hands (because there’s been no bath yet!) and the baby uses that taste on their hand to follow mom’s smell. The secretions coming from the glands on the areola (that dark circle) smell familiar too and help the baby get to the breast to get the colostrum which is going to feed the good bacteria and keep them protected from infection. The kids can attach by themselves. Watch for yourself! And if you just need colostrum to feed bacteria and not yourself, well, there doesn’t have to be much. And there isn’t because the kids aren’t hungry and because Breastmilk is not food!

We’re talking normal babies. Breastfeeding is normal. It’s what babies are hardwired to do. 2009 or 209, the kids would all do the same thing: try to find the breast. Breastfeeding isn’t special sauce, a leg up or a magic potion. It’s not “best.” It’s normal. Just normal. Designed for the needs of a vulnerable human infant. And nothing else designed to replace it is normal.

Colostrum also activates things in the baby’s gut that then goes on to make the thymus grow. The thymus is part of the immune system. Growing your thymus is important. Breastmilk= big thymus, good immune system. Colostrum also has a bunch of something called Secretory Immunoglobulin A (SIgA). SIgA is made in the first few days of life and is infection protection specifically from mom. Cells in mom’s gut watch what’s coming through and if there’s an infectious cell, a special cell in mom’s gut called a plasma cell heads to the breast and helps the breast make SIgA in the milk to protect the baby. If mom and baby are together, like on mom’s chest, then the baby is protected from what the two of them may be exposed to. Babies should be with mom.

And the tigers. What about them? Define “tiger” however you want. But if you are baby with no skills in self-protection, staying with mom, having a grasp reflex, and a startle reflex that helps you grab onto your mom, especially if she’s hairy, makes sense. Babies know the difference between a bassinette and a human chest. When infants are separated from their mothers, they have a “despair- withdrawal” response. The despair part comes when they alone, separated. The kids are vocally expressing their desire not to be tiger food. When they are picked up, they stop crying. They are protected, warm and safe. If that despair cry is not answered, they withdraw. They get cold, have massive amounts of stress hormones released, drop their heart rate and get quiet. That’s not a good baby. That’s one who, well, is beyond despair. Normal babies want to be held, all the time.

And when do tigers hunt? At night. It makes no sense at all for our kids to sleep at night. They may be eaten. There’s nothing really all that great about kids sleeping through the night. They should wake up and find their body guard. Daytime, well, not so many threats. They sleep better during the day. (Think about our response to our tigers– sleep problems are a huge part of stress, depression, anxiety.)

And sleep… My guess is everybody sleeps with their kids- whether they choose to or not and whether they admit to it or not. It’s silly of us as healthcare providers to say “don’t sleep with your baby” because we all do it. Sometimes accidentally. Sometimes intentionally. The kids are snuggly, it feels right and you are tired. So, normal babies breastfeed, stay at the breast, want to be held and sleep better when they are with their parents. Seems normal to me. But there is a difference between a normal baby and one that isn’t. Safe sleep means that we are sober, in bed and not a couch or a recliner, breastfeeding, not smoking…being normal. If the circumstances are not normal, then sleeping with the baby is not safe.

That chest -to -chest contact is also brain development. Our kids had as many brain cells as they were ever going to have at 28 weeks of gestation. It’s a jungle of waiting -to-be- connected cells. What we do as humans is create too much and then get rid of what we aren’t using. We have like 8 nipples, a tail and webbed hands in the womb. If all goes well, we don’t have those at birth. Create too much- get rid of what you aren’t using. So, as you are snuggling, your child is hooking up happy brain cells and hopefully getting rid of the “eeeek” brain cells. Breastfeeding, skin-to-skin, is brain wiring. Not food.

Why go on and on about this? Because more and more mothers are choosing to breastfeed. But most women don’t believe that the body that created that beautiful baby is capable of feeding that same child and we are supplementing more and more with infant formulas designed to be food. Why don’t we trust our bodies post-partum? I don’t know. But I hear over and over that the formula is because “I am just not satisfying him.” Of course you are. Babies don’t need to “eat” all the time- they need to be with you all the time- that’s the ultimate satisfaction.

A baby at the breast is getting their immune system developed, activating their thymus, staying warm, feeling safe from predators, having normal sleep patterns and wiring their brain, and (oh by the way) getting some food in the process. They are not “hungry” –they are obeying instinct. The instinct that allows us to survive and make more of us.

Dr. Thomas

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Affirmations for Pregnancy

Affirmations for Pregnancy

Affirmations are statements that you use to help instill a sense of positivity in your mind about a particular subject. You use these short phrases and sentences to help your mind hear a positive message that you wish it to remember.

You can write your own affirmation, to use whenever you like. Remember they should be in the present tense, as if what you wish to happen is already occurring. For example, a friend of mine who was trying to get pregnant and having difficulty, would say, “I am a good parent to my child.” She said this every morning, even during infertility treatments. She says she remembers visualizing it as she would wait for procedures and tests. She feels it really helped her from falling into despair. And when she became pregnant, she switched to daily pregnancy affirmations.

If you choose to write your own affirmations, start with phrases like:

  • I am
  • My mind is open to
  • My body is open to
  • My baby is
  • My labor is
  • Breastfeeding is
  • I know
  • My body knows

Some women use positive affirmations to help them overcome fear, to get pregnant or to simple remind themselves that pregnancy is not an illness. While affirmations are simple and easy, they are also effective for many women.

Here are some samples:

  • I know how to take care of myself in pregnancy.
  • My body knows how to give birth.
  • My baby knows the true birthday.
  • Birth is safe for me and my baby.
  • My baby will be born at the perfect time.
  • My body knows when to give birth.
  • I am a good mother.
  • My baby will find the perfect position for birth.
  • I love my baby.
  • My baby loves me.
  • I am a strong woman.
  • Contractions help to bring my baby.
  • I will make the right decisions for my baby.
  • My pregnant body is beautiful.
  • My baby senses the peace I feel.
  • I accept the help of others.
  • My baby’s head fit snuggly into my pelvis.
  • I accept my labor and birth.
  • I am surrounded by those who love and respect me.
  • I trust my body.
  • I know how to take care of my baby.
  • My baby feels my love.
  • I will make plenty of breast milk for my baby.

You can use index cards to write your affirmations and place them in locations to remind you to say them. Consider using your affirmations as a part of your relaxation routine as well. They also make really nice mantras for labor!

If you’d like to have daily pregnancy affirmations emailed to you, you can sign up for the daily Pregnancy Affirmations delivered straight to your inbox.

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Pain in Labour: Your hormones are your helpers

Pain in Labour: Your hormones are your helpers

© Dr Sarah J Buckley 2005 www.sarahjbuckley.com

First published in Australia’s Parents Pregnancy, Autumn 1999, as “Your Hormones are your Helpers” This version updated July 2005
Imagine this. Your cat is pregnant, due to give birth around the same time as you are. You have your bags packed for hospital, and are awaiting the first signs of labour with excitement and a little nervousness .

Meanwhile your cat has been hunting for an out-of-the way place — your socks drawer or laundry basket — where she in unlikely to be disturbed. When you notice, you open the wardrobe door, but she moves again. Intrigued, you notice that your observation, even your presence, seems to disturb the whole process. And, wish as you might to get a glimpse into the mysteries of birth before it is your turn, you wake up the next morning to find her washing her four newborn kittens in the linen cupboard.

Why does birth seem so easy to our animal friends when it is so difficult for us? One obvious difference is the altered shape of the pelvis and birth outlet that is caused by our upright stance; our babies need to twist and turn to navigate these unique bends. Even our nearest cousins, the great apes, have a near-straight birth canal.

However, in every other way, human birth is like that of other mammals — those animals that suckle their young — and involves the same hormones: the body’s chemical messengers. These hormones, which originate in the deepest and oldest parts of our brain, cause the physical processes of labour and birth, as well as exerting a powerful influence on our emotions and behaviour.

Researchers such as French surgeon and natural birth pioneer Michel Odent believe that if we can be more respectful of our mammalian roots, and the hormones that we share, we can have more chance of a straightforward birth ourselves.

Labour and birth involve peak levels of the hormones oxytocin, sometimes called the hormone of love, and prolactin- the mothering hormone. These two hormones are perhaps best known for their role in breastfeeding. As well as these, beta-endorphin, the body’s natural pain-killer, and the fight-or-flight hormones adrenaline and noradrenaline (epinephrine and norepinephrine) play an important part in the birth process. There are many more hormonal influences on birth that are not well understood.

All mammals seek a safe place to give birth. This “nesting” instinct may be due to an increase in levels of prolactin, which is sometimes referred to as the nesting hormone. At this stage, as you may have observed with your cat, interference which the nest — or more importantly with the feeling of safety — will stall the beginning of labour.

Even after labour has started, there are certain conditions that will slow, or even stop the process. If the fight-or-flight hormones are activated by feelings of fear or danger, contractions will slow down. Our mammalian bodies are designed to give birth in the wilds, where it is an advantage to postpone labour when there is danger, and to seek safety.

Many women have had the experience of their labour stopping when they entered the unfamiliar surroundings of a hospital, and some women can be as sensitive as a cat to the presence of an observer. Giving birth away from our natural environment can cause the sorts of difficulties for humans that captive animals experience when giving birth in a zoo.

Michel Odent cautions that even hunger, which also causes the body to release fight-or-flight hormones, can stop labour from progressing. He advises women to eat- if they are hungry- in the earliest stages of labour; many hospitals, though, have a policy that prevents labouring women from eating once they are admitted.

Oxytocin is the hormone that causes the uterus to contract during labour. Levels of oxytocin gradually increase throughout labour, and are highest around the time of birth, when it contributes to the euphoria and receptiveness to her baby that a mother usually feels after an unmedicated birth. This peak, which is triggered by sensations of stretching of the birth canal as the baby is born, does not occur when an epidural is in place. Administration of an epidural has been found to interfere with bonding between ewes and their newborn lambs.

Synthetic oxytocin is often given by drip- that is, directly into the bloodstream- when labour contractions are inefficient. Oxytocin given in this way does not enter the brain, and so does not contribute to the post-birth “high”, and in fact can lead to desensitisation to the mothers own oxytocin production. Nipple stimulation is sometimes used to stimulate contractions because, like breastfeeding, this causes oxytocin levels to increase.

Oxytocin has another crucial role to play after the birth. Oxytocin causes the contractions that lead to separation of the placenta from the uterus, and its release as the “after-birth”. When oxytocin levels are high, strong contractions occur that reduce the chance of bleeding, or post-partum haemorrhage.

Putting your newborn baby to your breast is the easiest way to increase oxytocin levels, but Michel Odent also emphasises the importance of privacy during the hour following birth. This gives the opportunity for uninterrupted skin-to-skin and eye-to-eye contact between mother and baby – conditions that optimise oxytocin release.

Oxytocin helps us in our emotional, as well as our physical, transition to motherhood. From the first weeks of pregnancy, oxytocin helps us to be more emotionally open and more receptive to social contact and support. As the hormone of orgasm, labour and breastfeeding, oxytocin encourages us to “forget ourselves”, either through altruism — service to others — or through feelings of love.

The fight or flight hormones- also called catecholamines (pronounced cat-e-kol-a-meens), or CAs- can interfere with oxytocin release during labour and after the birth. However they do have an important role to play in the second stage of labour, which is when birth actually occurs.

Early in second stage, when the cervix is fully open but the urge to push is not yet strong, a woman can feel the need to rest for some time. This is sometimes known as the “rest and be thankful” time. After this, she may quite suddenly experience the dry mouth, dilated pupils and sudden burst of energy that are all characteristic of high levels of CAs.

This burst of CA’s gives a mother the energy to push her baby out, and Michel Odent observes that, when unmedicated, women usually want to be upright at this time. Some traditional cultures have used this fight-or-flight effect to help women having difficulty with the delivery by surprising or shouting out at this stage. It makes sense, at this point-of-no-return, for fear or danger to speed up the birth, so that a mother can gather up her newborn baby and run for safety.

CA levels drop quickly after the birth, which can make a mother may feel cold or shaky. At this stage a very warm atmosphere is essential, according to Michel Odent, to keep CA levels low and to allow oxytocin to work effectively to prevent bleeding.

The other major birthing hormone, prolactin is most noteworthy for its effects after the birth. Prolactin is the major hormone of breast milk synthesis. Suckling by the newborn baby increases prolactin levels; early and frequent suckling from the first days makes the breast more responsive to prolactin, which in turn helps to ensure a good long-term supply of milk.

Like the other hormones, prolactin has effects on emotion and behaviour. Prolactin helps us to put our babies needs first in all situations by increasing submissiveness, anxiety and vigilance.

When prolactin is combined with oxytocin, as it is soon after birth and during breastfeeding, it encourages a relaxed and selfless devotion to the baby that contributes to a mother’s satisfaction and her baby’s physical and emotional health.

Beta endorphin (pronounced beet-a en-door-fin) is one of the endorphin hormones which are released by the brain in times of stress or pain, and is a natural equivalent to painkilling drugs like pethidine.

During labour, beta-endorphin helps to relieve pain, and contributes to the “on another planet” feeling that women experience when they labour without drugs. Levels of beta-endorphin are reduced when drugs are used for pain relief.

Very high levels of beta-endorphin can slow labour by reducing oxytocin levels, which may help to “ration” the intensity of labour according to our ability to deal with it. Moderate levels of beta-endorphin help us to deal with pain in labour, as well as encouraging us to follow our instincts. As part of the hormonal cocktail after birth, beta-endorphin plays a role in bonding between mother and baby, who is also primed with endorphins from the birth process.

Beta-endorphin also switches on learning and memory, perhaps explaining why we remember our labour and birth in such amazing detail. Like oxytocin, endorphin hormones can induce euphoria and are also released during lovemaking and breastfeeding. In fact endorphins are actually present in breast milk, which explains the natural high that babies can get after a breast-feed. Beta-endorphin helps the body to release prolactin, underlining the elaborate interplay between these hormones of labour, birth and breastfeeding.

So there you are, at the door, with your bag in your hand and a strong contraction. You remember the oxytocin and endorphins, which you also carry with you, and with your next relaxed breath, you breathe out fear and tension. You’ve packed your new nursing bra, and you know that prolactin will come to your aid as well. As you take a last look around the house, you notice your cat.

She’s lying down as her kittens attach to her nipples, and as you catch her eye, she winks at you.

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